I never expected to hear it this early.
The stomp.
The jump.
The crossed arms.
And then those words that land heavier than any slammed door:
“I hate you!”
“It’s not fair!”
“I don’t like you!”
“I’m leaving!”
She is six.
Six years old, yet somehow carrying the emotional thunder of sixteen.
And in that moment, I felt my heart pull in two directions:
One part wounded because I’m her mother.
The other part anchored because I remember that I am also her builder, her trainer, and her legacy shaper.
This is the tightrope every mother of a strong-willed child walks. Especially in the KNg Dynasty where fierceness is not something we punish out of them, but something we steward, shape, disciple, and refine into purpose.
THE MOMENT THE STORM HIT
It happened over something small something silly, really.
It’s always the small things that awaken the big emotions in children who feel deeply.
I said no.
Not because I wanted control.
But because it wasn’t good for her.
And then came the storm.
Red face.
Tight fists.
Fast breathing.
A six-year-old heart overwhelmed by disappointment.
She didn’t have the vocabulary for what she felt.
So she used the strongest words she could find.
And for a split second, I felt the sting.
But then God whispered something that changed the whole atmosphere:
“She doesn’t mean the words she said.
She means the feelings she doesn’t know how to express.”
Children don’t say “I hate you” out of hatred.
They say it because they feel powerless.
Because their emotions outrun their development.
Because their world feels unfair and they don’t yet understand boundaries as love.
THE BIBLICAL LENS: RAISING ROYAL HEARTS
Even royal children have moments where their emotions roar bigger than their wisdom.
Think about David.
He was anointed as a child yet he still wrestled with emotion, impulse, and passion.
God didn’t silence David’s strong emotions.
He shaped them.
Just like God shapes ours.
And now, we’re called to shape theirs.
“Train up a child in the way he should go…” (Proverbs 22:6)
Training isn’t quiet.
Training isn’t always sweet.
Training isn’t always peaceful.
Training is loud, messy, emotional, and sometimes humbling.
Dynasties aren’t built in stillness.
They’re forged in moments when our children feel lost and we guide them back.
THE REAL MOMENT THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING
After the storm passed, she hid under the blanket crying, ashamed, overwhelmed by her own words.
This is where identity is formed.
So I knelt beside her and whispered:
“Baby, you can feel anything.
But you can’t say everything.
Your words are powerful just like you.
But powerful people must learn to use their power with love.”
She peeked out of the blanket, eyes still wet.
“Mommy… I didn’t mean it.”
And I told her the truth that builds legacies:
“I know.
Because your feelings are real, but they don’t define who you are.
You’re my daughter.
You’re God’s daughter.
You’re royalty.
And royalty learns to rule their emotions not be ruled by them.”
Her little body softened.
She crawled into my lap.
And we talked not about the tantrum but about her heart.
WHAT MOTHERS NEED TO KNOW (THE KNg DYNASTY WAY)
Tantrums do not mean failure. They mean growth.
She is developing strength, voice, and power.
These early storms mean she’s learning the world and herself.
Your calm is her anchor.
When you stay steady, you teach her what stability looks like.
You are not raising a quiet spirit you are raising a royal one.
Royalty carries authority, emotion, and presence.
Your job is to guide not silence.
Discipline is not about punishment it’s about direction.
Discipline in the KNg Dynasty means shaping character, not breaking spirit.
Speak identity even in correction.
Reminding her WHO she is matters more than reminding her WHAT she did.
THE DYNASTY DECLARATION FOR MOTHERS
As mothers, we must remember:
We are not raising perfect children.
We are raising future leaders.
Future warriors.
Future kingdom shakers.
Children with destiny will always feel deeply.
They will challenge us.
Press us.
Stretch us.
Force us to grow as they grow.
But tantrums do not intimidate a dynasty mother.
We know what we’re building:
Royalty.
Legacy.
Emotional intelligence.
Confidence.
Spiritual grounding.
Purpose-driven identity.
The words “I hate you” may echo through a moment but they do not define your motherhood.
The kingdom being formed inside them is stronger than the storm that comes out of them.
And you mother, warrior, builder are exactly who God chose to shape her into the queen she is becoming.
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